Mark Manson

"had just read Tim Ferrris's 4-hour work week"

"Look right here. I got four whiskey sours in MyFitnessPal. So, all I got to do is skip breakfast and I hit my calories."

"I do yoga too which is another you know it's a Hindu tradition that I do that I'm not there's no spiritual... more for me. It's actually meditative too for me as well. There's there's a silent yoga I go to sometimes that's very meditative."

"I actually use his planner though, his notebook. I think I mentioned this in the procrastination episode, but I use his planner, which is very much centered around time boxing."

"Open up the Google doc and let's just let's just write the intro."

"This is why I time box though. That's what I figured out. That's one of the lessons I learned from all this. I'm like, 'Oh, this is actually what time boxing is doing for me.' Is it gives me a very clear like this is what I'm working on."

"I used to use this writing software called Scrivener, which was designed for authors writing books. And it sets up you can set all these benchmarks for yourself of like how many words do you want to write a day?"

"So I went down to a coffee shop and I just had to work on my little 13-inch MacBook Pro. And I got a lot done."

"I brought a sudoku from the college newspaper and I did the sudoku and I realized that I stayed awake the entire lecture and I took great notes"

"I honestly like the the the only online dating experiences I had was a website, little old website called plentyofish.com."

"I got addicted to the game Overwatch back like 10 years ago. I got addicted so hard, dude. I had practice regimens. I had like a daily warm-up routine. I found a team that I was playing with."

"The most productive people you admire are not necessarily doing more than you. They're doing less, but they're doing it more strategically."

"Positive visualization around the process of getting to where you want is actually what's the most important part."

"I got to give a shout out to good friend of mine, Nir Eyal. He wrote his book. He's got a book called Indistractable that's very much about this."

"The most useful one I've ever come across is Cal Newport's Deep Work, his framework around that. Great book. If you haven't read it, go out and read it."

"He kind of came up with this framework that he calls bids for affection. And it is really much about this responsiveness like the Gottman's argue that it's the hallmark of happy couples"

"She calls it the three loves framework and she what what she has found in her research is that humans tend to experience what we call love, the single word for love. It's actually three different experiences"

"The Gottmans have been probably the preeminent researchers on marriage stability and satisfaction for 40 years now. And their primary method of researching is that they literally just film married couples."

"A great exercise that comes from Warren Buffett is write down all of the things that you care about, all of your priorities, all the things that seem important to you. Then order them from most important to least important. Then you go and you cross off everything except for the top three things."

"There's a thing called an Eisenhower matrix, which is basically you take all of the tasks or things you want to do and you divide it into four quadrants."

"Write the worst case scenario down. This is often called negative visualization. Think about what can go wrong."

"The domino mindset is realizing that most of your life is not changed by huge dramatic overhauls. It's changed by one small habit or behavioral change that quietly knocks over everything else."

"You just get a good night's rest and maybe clarify some of your thoughts and writing a journal that day."

"the best thing you can do is therapy. Honestly, it's it's if anything just because it is going to allow you to work that muscle of talking about yourself"

"Emotional maturity is actually what you're left with when things screw up. Do they try to understand you? Do you try to understand them? Are you communicative? Are you forgiving?"

"The lesson here is that the behaviors have to come first, your feelings second."

"There's this concept in psychology called halo effect. Basically, the more good-looking you are, man or woman, the more other people assume positive things about you."

"You can feel sad and not spiral into a week-long Netflix coma."

"There's a concept from Alan Watts called the backwards law. And once I learned it, it completely changed my life."

"That observation is usually the first accurate observation that meditation produces for people. That is meditation."

"Sending a Snapchat is easier. Staying home is safer."

"Things like Waking Up or Sam Harris's Waking Up and then Dan Harris's 10% Happier. Both of those apps have much more of a philosophical psychological focus in their content."

"The two biggest ones most people have heard of, Calm and Headspace, and Calm and Headspace very much went after the casual user, right? It's like five minutes in the morning, de-stress a little bit, help you relax."

"The two biggest ones most people have heard of, Calm and Headspace, and Calm and Headspace very much went after the casual user, right? It's like five minutes in the morning, de-stress a little bit, help you relax."

"Dan Harris is an interesting case study here. So, for people who don't know, he was a ABC News anchor. He had a very public panic attack back in like the early 2000s I think or something like that and that's what led him to meditation."

"attachment theory basically found that children need two things. They need to explore the world and then they need a safe place to return to when they feel threatened or scared or overwhelmed"

"There's this guy William Dodson back in 2016. He came up with this framework for an ADHD brain. The PINCH acronym stands for passion, interest, novelty, competition, or a hurry."

"He co-developed a framework called motivational interviewing, one of the most effective techniques for helping people alter their habits."

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"I'd find like a Spotify playlist that was focused for work or something like that and then kind of pick a genre that I like."

"When you go to duck.ai, you can chat privately with any popular AI tool like ChatGPT, Claude, and many others."

"David Foster Wallace had an absolutely brilliant book called Infinite Jest that I think everybody tries to read at some point and nobody can get through because it requires too much focus."

"There's a fantastic book about depression called The Noonday Demon and the author talks about medieval Christian monks going back 800 years ago and how they wrote extensively about a concept called acedia."

"Anyway, he wrote this great book called Flow. So, a lot of people are probably somewhat familiar at least with this concept of flow"

"I can't believe I haven't mentioned yet video games. I'm a huge gamer. Like video games are completely optimized to generate flow state in people. Like that is pretty much entirely how they're engineered is to generate as much flow state as possible."

"I was recently listening to a podcast with Matthew Walker, the guy who wrote Why We Sleep, a big sleep researcher."

"I think it's like a little animal or something that takes over the screen and it's knitting. If you interrupt it then the knitting little animal gets sad and you don't get your sweater finished."

"So, there's a thing called the dark triad. It's three personality traits that are highly interrelated and they basically predict all antisocial behavior. Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy."

"Tolstoy wrote Anna Karenina, arguably like the best romance novel ever written, one of the most famous books ever written."

"After their ship was crushed in Antarctic ice, Ernest Shackleton left 22 men stranded on Elephant Island under Frank Wild's command while he sailed for help."

"The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Mental Disorders or the DSM is the Bible of psychiatry. It's the book that defines what counts as a mental illness and what does not."

"She edited and rewrote War and Peace for him."

"Most of us today, we think of Romeo and Juliet as the ultimate love story. People don't realize that contemporaries of Shakespeare at the time saw it as a cautionary tale of don't let your teenager fall in love with somebody because this is what's going to happen to you."

"I remember in high school I read Jane Eyre and I thought it was the most boring book in the world. What I realized at the time it was so transgressive. This idea that you would marry for love was completely transgressive at the time."

"Helen Fischer and her colleagues put people who self-reported being intensely in love into an fMRI machine and showed them photos of the people that they were obsessed about."

"So life, it turns out, is kind of like this Rubik's cube. Nobody really knows what the fuck they're doing."

"It's always the ex's fault, your boss's fault, the market's fault, your childhood's fault, your parents' fault, Bitcoin's fault."

"Rosalie would then publish her own book aptly titled How to Attract Men and Money."

"Think and Grow Rich is one of the bestselling books of all time. It's been credited by Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Don Johnson, Larry Ellison, Steve Harvey, and hundreds of others as a book that changed their lives."

"It leans on identity based habits, that you tend to act in the ways that you see yourself."

"people, primarily women, but people, uh, started posting the f*** yes or no article in their profiles and telling people, 'Before you message me, read this article.'"

"Even Brené Brown herself, who's kind of like the queen of vulnerability, in this space, you know, she wrote a there's a whole section, I think, in Daring Greatly about how men are harshly judged"

"cognitive reappraisal is like, you know, CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy. This is like one of the key tools uh, within that framework"

"we enter flow when the challenge is just right above our current skill level"

"Lose 20 pounds, listen to Andrew Huberman twice, never drink again, live happily ever after."

"He drinks a bunch of it, listening to his new Marilyn Manson album, has a near spiritual experience"

"You can go get IVs with NAD+ and all sorts of peptides and shit to make yourself a better person."

"You can macro dose your creatine and micro dose your ashwagandha and wake up and stare at the sun at 5:30 in the morning."

"You can macro dose your creatine and micro dose your ashwagandha and wake up and stare at the sun at 5:30 in the morning."

"maybe she you're like a couple inches shorter than she would have wanted on Tinder"

"I remember in 2008 there was a book called The Shallows by a guy named Nicholas Carr. If you go back and look at that book now, it is a comprehensive 300-page exercise in how correlation is not causation."

"It has since now blown up and is mostly popularized by Andrew Tate. But the Manosphere guys looked at this research result... they celebrated it."

"He spent his free time compulsively playing Candy Crush on his iPad for hours and hours, every single day. At one point, he bragged to the reporter that he had one of the highest scores in the world."

"you're probably staying up too late and having too many Red Bulls and monsters"

"Get off YouTube. That's right. Turn it off. I'm waiting."

"playing a little bit too much Counter Strike. Go to bed."

"you're probably staying up too late and having too many Red Bulls and monsters"

"there was a huge book for women called the rules. And I I think first of all I think rules are stupid because they don't account for just the individuality of each person"

"That's why I use factor. It just removes the friction and it removes the decision-making. This week I had Chipotle rubbed pork chop and it was legitimately one of the best things I ate all week."

"The only meditation app that I personally have ever stuck with. It was created by Sam Harris, the neuroscientist, philosopher, bestselling author, and genuinely one of the sharpest thinkers on consciousness out there right now."

"That's why a few months ago, I started using IM8's Daily Ultimate Essentials. I drink it first thing in the morning. It tastes surprisingly good and it saves me from having to think about wellness for the rest of the day."

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"Henson shaving took a completely different approach. Designed by aerospace machinists in Canada, instead of letting the blade move, they lock it in place. I've been trying mine out and the first time you use it, it kind of feels wrong."

"Brain FM uses music that's actually engineered by neuroscientists to shift your brain waves into focus, relaxation, or even sleep. I've been using it for a while now and it's become one of my go-tos for writing sessions."

"Hostinger allows you to build a website and web apps with literally a click of a button. Their new website designer makes it so simple to produce a website, email, domain, full hosting setup within minutes that you have no excuse to pursue that dream business"

"It was created by Sam Harris, the neuroscientist, philosopher, bestselling author, and genuinely one of the sharpest thinkers on consciousness out there right now."

"BetterHelp makes therapy instant and accessible for everybody. Therapy is one of the most useful things that I've ever done in my life."

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