Mark Manson

"I honestly like the the only online dating experiences I had was a website, little old website called plentyoffish.com."

"I got my MyFitnessPal. Like, look right here. I got four whiskey sours and my MyFitnessPal. So, all I got to do is skip breakfast and I hit my calories."

"She calls it the three loves framework and she what what she has found in her research is that humans tend to experience what we call love, the single word for love. It's actually three different experiences"

"He kind of came up with this framework that he calls bids for affection. And it is really much about this responsiveness like the Gottman's argue that it's the hallmark of happy couples"

"The Gottmans have been probably the preeminent researchers on marriage stability and satisfaction for 40 years now. And their primary method of researching is that they literally just film married couples."

"A great exercise that comes from Warren Buffett is write down all of the things that you care about, all of your priorities, all the things that seem important to you. Then order them from most important to least important. Then you go and you cross off everything except for the top three things."

"There's a thing called an Eisenhower matrix, which is basically you take all of the tasks or things you want to do and you divide it into four quadrants."

"Write the worst case scenario down. This is often called negative visualization. Think about what can go wrong."

"You just get a good night's rest and maybe clarify some of your thoughts and writing a journal that day."

"The domino mindset is realizing that most of your life is not changed by huge dramatic overhauls. It's changed by one small habit or behavioral change that quietly knocks over everything else."

"The best thing you can do is therapy. Honestly, it's if anything just because it is going to allow you to work that muscle of talking about yourself."

"You can go to solvepodcast.com/dating to download that for free"

"Emotional maturity is actually what you're left with when things screw up. Do they try to understand you? Do you try to understand them? Are you communicative? Are you forgiving?"

"After their ship was crushed in Antarctic ice, Ernest Shackleton left 22 men stranded on Elephant Island under Frank Wild's command while he sailed for help."

"The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Mental Disorders or the DSM is the Bible of psychiatry. It's the book that defines what counts as a mental illness and what does not."

"The Gottmans have been probably the preeminent researchers on marriage stability and satisfaction for 40 years now. They literally just film married couples and track those married couples longitudinally."

"Tolstoy wrote Anna Karenina, arguably like the best romance novel ever written, one of the most famous books ever written. And his marriage with his wife was like so contentious, so toxic."

"I remember in high school I read Jane Eyre and I thought it was the most boring book in the world. What I realized at the time it was so transgressive. This idea that you would marry for love was completely transgressive at the time."

"Most of us today, we think of Romeo and Juliet as the ultimate love story. People don't realize that contemporaries of Shakespeare at the time saw it as a cautionary tale of don't let your teenager fall in love with somebody because this is what's going to happen to you."

"Helen Fischer and her colleagues put people who self-reported being intensely in love into an fMRI machine and showed them photos of the people that they were obsessed about."

"She edited and rewrote War and Peace for him."

"So life, it turns out, is kind of like this Rubik's cube. Nobody really knows what the fuck they're doing."

"It's always the ex's fault, your boss's fault, the market's fault, your childhood's fault, your parents' fault, Bitcoin's fault."

"Think and Grow Rich is one of the bestselling books of all time. It's been credited by Tony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Don Johnson, Larry Ellison, Steve Harvey, and hundreds of others as a book that changed their lives."

"Rosalie would then publish her own book aptly titled How to Attract Men and Money."

"It leans on identity based habits, that you tend to act in the ways that you see yourself."

"Even Brené Brown herself, who's kind of like the queen of vulnerability, in this space, you know, she wrote a there's a whole section, I think, in Daring Greatly about how men are harshly judged."

"Darwin really broached this subject in his 1871 book The Descent of Man. It's not the Origin of Species, this one came later"

"So in the Origin of Species, Darwin posited his theory of natural selection which is basically survival of the fittest"

"It's called Thursday because they only let you message and match on Thursdays. And then it's shut off."

"It's a turquoise silicon ring that you can wear that signals that you are single. So instead of like a wedding band, it's the opposite."

"The old advice around that back in the day was comedy classes and improv classes."

"In their defense, I do think improv comedy and it's a great skill, don't get me wrong. There's a lot of great social and verbal skills that come with it."

"my friend Derek Sivers wrote a small blog post about an idea he called hell yeah or no. And he wrote it in the context of business, right? So, it's like if you have an investment opportunity or a work opportunity"

"we were looking at our Google Analytics of the website and there was all of this traffic from OkCupid and thousands and thousands of people coming from OkCupid and we were like that's so weird"

"we enter flow when the challenge is just right above our current skill level"

"He drinks a bunch of it, listening to his new Marilyn Manson album, has a near spiritual experience"

"Lose 20 pounds, listen to Andrew Huberman twice, never drink again, live happily ever after."

"You can go get IVs with NAD+ and all sorts of peptides and shit to make yourself a better person."

"You can macro dose your creatine and micro dose your ashwagandha and wake up and stare at the sun at 5:30 in the morning."

"You can macro dose your creatine and micro dose your ashwagandha and wake up and stare at the sun at 5:30 in the morning."

"He spent his free time compulsively playing Candy Crush on his iPad for hours and hours, every single day. At one point, he bragged to the reporter that he had one of the highest scores in the world."

"playing a little bit too much Counter Strike. Go to bed."

"you're probably staying up too late and having too many Red Bulls and monsters"

"you're probably staying up too late and having too many Red Bulls and monsters"

"Get off YouTube. That's right. Turn it off. I'm waiting."

"there was a huge book for women called The Rules. And I think first of all I think rules are stupid because they don't account for just the individuality of each person that you meet"

"There used to be a thing called Mystery Method. It was like the main pickup artist framework for like eight years"

"ChatGPT kind of sucks as a therapist or coach. It constantly validates you. It doesn't challenge you. It makes up crazy facts about you."

"There's a concept that I call the do something principle. And I actually learned it from my high school math teacher."

"Check out community.solvepodcast.com. We've got a great community of thousands of people there who are following us every month and working on a lot of the same stuff that we're working on."

"I wrote an article called F*ck yes or no. And basically the principle was is that if it's not a F*ck yes, if you're dating somebody and after a certain amount of time like you feel like you've gotten to know them and um and your both of your intentions are clear, if it's not a F*ck yes, then it should just be a no"

"One of the things I wrote in Models, my dating book, is that most of what's attractive or unattractive in communication is intent"

"my dating book, Models Attract Women Through Honesty. Check it out. It is it's almost it's going to be 15 years old. Really? In July. Oh my god. 15 years old. Still holds up. Still sells like hot cakes"

"I got to work and the result is an app that we call Purpose. It's an AI designed to understand you at a deeper level in minutes than your therapist probably does in months."

"The result is an app that we call Purpose. It's an AI designed to understand you at a deeper level in minutes than your therapist probably does in months."

"The self-help hamster wheel is when you binge books, podcasts, and courses so you can feel like you're changing while your actual life is staying exactly the same."