How to Rewire the Beliefs Controlling Your Life

The gist

1. Robbins says beliefs are just feelings of certainty, built by repetition, intensity or listening to the wrong people, and they are not necessarily true.
2. He argues change is never a matter of ability but of reasons, so focus on what you want rather than getting stuck on how.
3. Robbins says behavior follows what your nervous system links to pain and pleasure, so linking enough pain to a habit lets you drop it without willpower.
4. His Dickens process copies Scrooge's ghosts: feel a belief's pain in the past, present and future until change feels like the only choice.
5. Robbins says your deepest values are emotions like love, security or adventure, and how you rank them shapes decisions and causes most relationship conflicts.