Your Mind Is Programmed To Stay a Victim (Here's How To Rewrite It) | Kier Gaines
Therapist Kier Gaines joins Lewis Howes to explain why people unconsciously sabotage their own goals through emotional hijacking, victim identity, and the habit of waiting for the right moment.
The gist
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Both negative emotions like fear and positive ones like relief can override your plans, regardless of how strong your intentions are.
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Gaines says waiting until you feel ready becomes a practiced skill that blocks action even when real opportunities show up.
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There is a difference between acknowledging you were victimized and making victim identity central to who you are, the latter stops progress.
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Small consistent behaviors like journaling monthly or sitting quietly build self-trust faster than waiting for a big life overhaul.
"It's one of the things I like about journaling. Journaling gives you a concrete place to be reflective. If you were to write 15 years ago all the things that you're most worried about, all the things that you're most excited about, and then you would look at it 10 years later,..."
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"It's one of the things I like about journaling. Journaling gives you a concrete place to be reflective. If you were to write 15 years ago all the things that you're most worried..."
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