You Will Attract Everything (Once You Let Go)
Lewis Howes, solo, walks through five expectations he says quietly block people from what they want, and how letting go of them, while still working and wanting, helped him grow his podcast and meet his wife Martha.
The gist
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Howes suggests writing "I did blank, so I'm owed blank," then keep doing the left side and cross out the right side.
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To stop feeling behind, Howes says to study what the person you compare yourself to was doing when they were at your stage.
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Howes recommends starting relationships with therapy or the book Eight Dates, which he and Martha did for about a year and a half.
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Instead of expecting people to read your mind, Howes suggests asking "Would you be willing to..." and letting them say no.
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Howes suggests checking the number you obsess over only once in 7 days, asking daily instead whether you did your part.
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"There's a book called Eight Dates. That's actually really powerful. We went through this book as well. You go on eight dates together, and you talk about all the big challenges that most relationships and marriages have. And you workshop them together, and you come to agreemen..."
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"We did it for about a year and a half. And it was not always comfortable. It was addressing a lot of things that were uncomfortable to each of us, but it created so much clear communication and clear agreements when we had certain expectations that we hadn't communicated yet. ..."
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"We did it for about a year and a half. And it was not always comfortable. It was addressing a lot of things that were uncomfortable to each of us, but it created so much clear c..."
"There's a book called Eight Dates. That's actually really powerful. We went through this book as well. You go on eight dates together, and you talk about all the big challenges ..."
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