The Strait of Hormuz is Why You're Still Single
Mark Manson uses the Iran-Strait of Hormuz situation as a metaphor to explain how leverage and dependency shape dating and relationships.
The gist
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Depending on one person for emotional validation gives them leverage over you, just as relying on a single energy source creates geopolitical vulnerability.
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Manson says you cannot negotiate with irrational partners optimizing for drama or spite; the only move is to leave, not engage.
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Building confidence and fulfillment from multiple sources outside a relationship means no single person can hold you hostage emotionally.
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Manson argues that the moment you stop needing someone is paradoxically when they become most interested in you.
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