Why Your 'Type' Is Keeping You Single

The gist

1. Research shows many people end up happily married to someone who had few of their stated must-haves, suggesting the checklist often misfires.
2. Hussey says to look for three concrete signals instead: effort, emotional maturity, and baseline attraction, like whether you would kiss them.
3. Ego and social pressure, not real incompatibility, are often what push people to dismiss someone who does not match their imagined partner.
4. Physical attraction can grow through repeated in-person time, since movement and varied contexts reveal things a photo or profile never shows.