Are Coffee Dates A Huge Turn Off?!
Matthew Hussey argues that coffee dates are not low-effort and that judging a date by how much someone spends is a poor filter for finding a genuine partner.
The gist
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Expensive venues do not signal serious intent, and a thoughtfully chosen modest spot can show just as much care as a pricey dinner.
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Hussey says app dating turned first dates into a screening step, making low-stakes meetups a sensible way to test chemistry before investing more.
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Go into early dates with a 'we'll see' mindset, staying curious about the person rather than projecting hopes onto a stranger you barely know.
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Requiring someone to spend heavily to earn a date unfairly excludes good partners who simply have limited disposable income, Hussey warns.
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