3 Factors To Consider Before Breaking Up

The gist

1. One of three things must change in an unhappy relationship: your standards, their behavior, or the relationship status. Keeping all three constant brings no peace.
2. If repeated conversations have not shifted their behavior, backing down from an ultimatum signals your standards are flexible and removes their reason to change.
3. Gradually lowering your standards to stay together is a slow emotional injury, often more visible to close friends and family than to yourself.
4. Hussey says you get what you accept, not what you deserve, so the other person will keep testing limits until they experience a real loss.