How a Stoic Deals with Obnoxious People
Ryan Holiday explains how Stoic philosophy, drawn from Marcus Aurelius, helps you handle difficult and obnoxious people without losing your composure or character.
The gist
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Each morning, remind yourself that annoying and dishonest people are inevitable so you respond calmly instead of with surprise.
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Holiday says people aren't willfully wrong, they simply lack understanding, which makes patience easier and stops you wasting energy on changing them.
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Reframe difficult people as sparring partners that give you real practice in patience, empathy, and creativity under pressure.
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You choose to take offense, so focusing on your own attitude and actions is more useful than resenting someone else's behavior.
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