Feel Them Pulling Away? Here's The Only Response That Wins

The gist

1. The intense pain you feel when someone pulls away usually signals an old abandonment wound, not how important that person actually is.
2. Anxiety pushes you to secure the person so you feel safe, not to judge whether they are actually right for you, which clouds decisions.
3. A 4-step protocol helps: check in with yourself, get curious about where the feeling sits in your body, show it compassion, then look for calm or clarity.
4. Recognising the person as one of many who triggered this old feeling removes their power over you and makes rumination easier to drop.