The #1 Question To Ask In Early Dating

The gist

1. Avoidant partners tend to withdraw emotionally or logistically right after moments of real closeness, creating a push-pull cycle that fuels obsession.
2. Test someone early by asking for small commitments like definite plans or sharing a vulnerability, then watch whether they stay engaged or become defensive.
3. Hussey says intense, consuming attraction to someone who pulls away is itself a warning sign, not proof of compatibility.
4. Ask yourself whether you feel relaxed around this person or constantly anxious trying to earn their attention, which puts the focus on your own experience.