How to Stop Dwelling on Early Dating Mistakes
Matthew Hussey explains why early dating mistakes feel so catastrophic and offers a practical framework for stopping the spiral, using a real text message blunder as a case study.
The gist
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Hussey says projection makes you treat someone you barely knew as your only shot, when incompatibility would likely have surfaced later anyway.
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If losing one person feels devastating, the real problem is a narrow dating life with too few options, not that specific person.
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When you can't create new options quickly, Hussey recommends defiance: commit to proving you can lose someone and still be happy.
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After a mistake, calm and empathetic outreach works better than anxious messages, and results may only show up months later.
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