Why More Freedom Is Making You Miserable
Mark Manson and Drew Bernie explore why having too many choices causes anxiety and paralysis, using Kierkegaard's philosophy to explain how commitment, not exploration, builds a stable sense of self.
The gist
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Your identity is built by closing doors, not keeping them open; endless research and exploration delay knowing who you actually are.
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Decidobia shows up in subtle ways like taking a temporary job or drifting with whatever structure surrounds you to avoid real decisions.
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Kierkegaard's dizziness of freedom is the paralyzing unease of infinite possibility, not fear of a specific thing, and it gets worse the longer you avoid choosing.
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Committing to something imperfect with full awareness of the sacrifice is more psychologically healthy than perpetually keeping your options open.
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