The Psychology Research That Proves You Are Not the Problem — Your Environment Is | Angela Duckworth
Lewis Howes talks with psychologist Angela Duckworth about why your environment, not just effort or grit, shapes your success, relationships, and who you become.
The gist
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Duckworth says trying harder in a losing situation leads to burnout, not results, and is a signal to change your environment instead.
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An intimate partner who believes in you and shares your vision can multiply your capability more than talent or work ethic alone.
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Duckworth recommends starting couples therapy while still dating, before problems build up, to align values and establish trust early.
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Duckworth says meaning comes from serving something larger than yourself, not from winning or being number one.
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