The Endless Pain Of Emotionally Mature Partners - Mercedes Coffman

The gist

1. Swipe culture rewards emotional unavailability, so the healthiest daters get worn down and drop out of the dating pool entirely.
2. Coffman's MOP framework says to match effort, observe patterns over weeks before attaching, and pace physical intimacy to keep judgment clear.
3. Limerance, an obsessive fixation driven by inconsistency, is a red flag for poor compatibility, not a sign of a deep connection.
4. Before committing, Coffman says to check for emotional availability, capacity to handle conflict, and maturity around rejection.