How To Stop Taking Things Personally

The gist

1. Manson says most people are too absorbed in themselves to notice you, citing research that fewer than a quarter of people notice our most embarrassing moments.
2. He says layoffs are usually decided in spreadsheets, and even a performance firing can be a signal you were in the wrong role.
3. On cheating, Manson cites a 2017 study finding people who cheated once were three times more likely to cheat in their next relationship.
4. He cites Shirley Glass finding 56% of men and 34% of women who had affairs called their marriages happy or very happy.
5. Manson recommends a CBT habit: when something stings, list three possible explanations that have nothing to do with you, and own any part that is yours.