Men don’t want to hear this (it’s holding them back)
Chris Williamson explores how men's habit of treating life as an optimization problem blocks genuine pleasure, presence, and connection.
The gist
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Men often chase money and status well past the point where it makes them happier, while calling others irrational.
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Approaching sex like a task to complete rather than a moment to share kills real connection with a partner.
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Fixating on future meaning and outcomes gives a false sense of control but cuts men off from the emotions they actually want.
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Pausing during an activity to notice you are fully present is a small habit that can build awareness and joy over time.
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