“Demonising Men Is Not A Good Strategy” - Richard Reeves
Chris Williamson talks with Richard Reeves about why blaming men or women for gender struggles is counterproductive, and how dating apps and modern life are reshaping relationships.
The gist
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Young men and women are being pushed to blame each other for problems actually caused by structural and technological changes, not the other gender.
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Dating less in high school and early adulthood is a real problem because that is where people learn skills like handling rejection gracefully.
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Reeves argues mate value grows more complex the better you know someone, so app-based shallow filtering misses most of what makes a good partner.
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Marriage success depends more on who you grow into as a partner over time than on finding the right person at the start.
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Harrison Bergeron
· "What's the Kurt Vonnegut short story? Harrison Bergeron. The ministry for equality levels everybody out."
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